Monday, August 28, 2017

Dedicated to the Game of Thrones

I've watched last night's Game of Thrones Season 7 finale. In it there were two developments that caught my eyes:

1. The death of Lord Baelish. Littlefinger had been a master schemer and power mover for so long acing his way it was hard to believe he was executed. The mistake of this power manipulator ? Read in this tweet. There's a lesson in there.


2. Cersei ready to kill her lover and father of her child Jaime Lannister, Commander of her army. Wait. Did she do it ? She hasn't done it yet, has she ? After the episode ended, the Internet erupted with the real Game of Thrones is the "White House of Thrones" and King Cersei getting dumber and dumber.

Nothing else was really a surprise for me, including:

The Fall of the Great Wall. All Walls are meant to fall. There a lesson in there.

Or the revelation that Jon Stark is a Targaryen.

Or Jon Stark making out with the silver haired queen.
"Not even Frank Ocean's new song, Taylor Swift's new video, or Katy Perry's unfunny MTV VMAs circus could compare with Sunday night's biggest cultural event. "-Esquire
After the show ended, people start going nuts CAN'T WAIT UNTIL 2018 or 2019 FOR THE LAST AND FINAL SEASON !"   People were hyped up, people screaming they don't want to wait another year or two to see what happens next.

I am asking, however, don't you have a quite similar show to watch ? I think you do. That show is your life. You don't have to wait until 2018 or 2019 for that show to air.

You do have a little Game of Thrones going on in your life right now, don't you ?  

Saturday, August 26, 2017

The Best Alpha Male Site for Techies

Silicon Valley does have a fetish with Wall Street.

This blog was named the "best alpha male site for techies" at a large symposium -which makes me proud. It's all about pushing the limits here. "Techies" can mean anything from programmers, web and app developers, entrepreneurs and VCs.  Being the leader of the geek squadron means I can teach technology workers things that Tim Ferriss doesn't. And I am a Ferriss follower, I listen to his podcasts and bought all of his books. What I write about is a little different.

I teach "Heartless of Gold". It's a concept never talked about before. It's having the heart to put yourself first before the world.

With the "Best of " of course, comes great responsibility. If I'm at SVOD Vator LA or PreMoney SF I have to set an example of best practices, integrity and reliability.

Saturday, August 19, 2017

How to Survive an Office Jerk notes

Last Monday WSJ published an article "How to Survive an Office Jerk" by Dr. Robert Sutton, a professor of management science at Stanford University.

These are the suggestions Dr. Sutton offers:

Keeping the distance from those office jerks -he cited a study that showed "employees who sat within 25 feet of a toxic co-worker were twice as likely to leave the company as employees who sat further away.

Slowing down the interaction (delaying response to the solicitation of the toxic person) by days, weeks or months (?!)

Having early-warning systems ("the jerk is in a bad mood today" relay).

The aforementioned coping mechanisms are probably used everywhere, but they have serious drawbacks. How far can you get from someone in a cubicle environment ? Not very far I'd guess.

Slowing down the response is hard to do in real life if you have a deadline. If you can find a surrogate for your nemesis and work with them (work by proxy ?)  the third party will notice your unease. Will they be for, or against you ? Now you have a third party's loyalty to manage.

Dr. Sutton's further methods of coping:

Thursday, August 17, 2017

How to grow your readership, tips for my fellow bloggers

"You'll have far more better luck toughening yourself up than you will ever will trying to take the teeth out of a world that is-at best-indifferent- to your existence." Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle is the Way.

 I have never made a statement before. I will make a statement here today, a clarification of sorts. (These are not the terms of use, which you can find in fine print at the bottom).

"I write my blog for the alpha male audience. This is an alpha male blog. The tone of it is decisive and incisive. Those that benefit most are those hungry for achievement, those that are not happy with the status quo. If you are a dad swimming in money who is nursing three kids and is proud of it, you're better off staying away. I reckon my writings are wasted on you. But you already know that. There is nothing inherently wrong with what you do, you've got your fill already and you're not looking to climb another mountaintop. Keep hugging that money bag of yours, Harvard dad. Keep munching on your mucus, Harvard son.

Beta males aren't going to find something for them in these pages. I don't serve up easy traits. If you're looking for the silver platter and don't want to put up the hard work, you are wasting your time here. Anyway, reading doesn't make an alpha male, doing is. Occasionally, I will use the F word here and other real life language. If you are offended in any way, drop out. I don't write for women, either (although I've placed pictures of food). Other than the nosy reporter, I have very few female readers. But those females, they are not your average female. They are far and between. They are the ninjas who will deck your cock in the middle of the night demanding that you punch their starfish. They are the go-getters who fly like majestic eagles across the prairie. They are the cream of the crop, the Danaerys Targaryens of the world. There is no limit to what a woman can achieve if she sets her mind to it."

That is what I had to say. 

-Max

Monday, August 14, 2017

Body Language Video, more gold[en] Max maxims

User Dina uploaded a video on one of my posts and she sent me an email suggesting I upload this full-length video on Body Language.  I agree to the value of the material and I suggest you watch it when you have 1:30 hrs. to do so.

Edit and update: the original Documentary was removed from public record and I had it replaced with a complete different short video:



Meanwhile, at your requests, here are more maxims:

"If you're going to hire a charlatan, don't make it an expensive charlatan." -Max Cantor maxim #40

"Self-deprecating jerks are just jerks that lower their standards." -Max Cantor maxim #41

"Nobody shoots at Santa Claus, even if he doesn't exist". -Max Cantor maxim #42
(variation of the Samuel Butler quote)

"When people say 'I wasn't born yesterday', they mean what they say". -Max Cantor maxim #43

"Golf is the closest game to the game we call life:You get bad breaks from good shots; you get good breaks from bad shots-but you have to play the ball where it lies"- Max's favorite Bobby Jones quote

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Who's pulling your strings ?

A friend of mine is going through a long-drawn divorce. I feel sorry for him because he has more sleepless nights and aching pains that you could imagine. I saw him yesterday, he has big bags under his eyes, slumped shoulders and has a barky, raspy cough. Looking unkept and insecure, he needed my help in moving stuff into a storage facility, because in a few days he needs to move and give up his house. It is not his house anymore.

Thinking of him I can't help but see what years of indoctrination and submissiveness have done.

Who's framing you right now ? Let's see if we can get to the bottom of it.

I define as framing [you] anyone that creates a strong dependency. The frame they impose may be self-evident or may be less visible, subconscious. Who can you name, now, that is framing you ? Is it your boss, is it your wife or husband, is it your preferred elected official ? Who do you defer to -like an automaton, without even knowing ?  Some people call this framing "persuasion" - a silly term if you consider you haven't even given consent. Perhaps a better term for it is manipulation, because the results are the same: you become utterly dependent on them, their life choices become your life ingredients, their cause becomes your own.

Let's talk politics for a moment. If you are a strong supporter or detractor of, say, President Trump, then Trump -is pulling your strings. It does not matter whether you like or dislike him, as long as you fall "hook, line, and sinker" you're there buddy, you're sucking on that popsicle.

The list expands from elected officials to anyone who is an "influencer" in your life. Anyone with a "myth" of glory, virtue, whatever. Any outsized influencer.

I could have easily titled this "Who's framing you ?" 

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Be your "authentic" self...or not ?

Celebrity COO Sheryl Sandberg was on Bloomberg TV yesterday commenting on the popular topic of the Google Memo, the memo that went viral couple of days ago.

“I think it’s great when people lose their jobs when it [sexual harassment] happens, because I think that is what will get people to not do it in the future,” Sandberg said in an interview with Bloomberg Television’s Emily Chang. “And I think this is a leadership challenge. As a leader of a company, there needs to be no tolerance for it.” (Source: Bloomberg)

Onto Uber's next leader: “People respond to what’s tolerated and what’s encouraged,” Sandberg said when asked what advice she had for Uber's next leader. “And I think a great leader can change the culture of I think almost any company in almost any situation. You put in new policies, you have new procedures, your language is different; I’m always optimistic.” (Fortune)

I'm not going to discuss the Google Memo, but Sheryl comments make sense. Hey, Sheryl, I'll trade you my job for yours [maybe].

What we do on this blog is power analysis. I won't debate the Memo. I don't work for Google, and frankly, it's NOMB.

What a leader needs to do:

1. Make sense of the news if it is newsworthy.
2. Set an appropriate course

On the power level, the executive needs to meet the audience at their level. Notice the Google Memo did not debate or implied sexual harassment. Nevertheless, Sheryl addressed it straight point. Why ? Because that issue was in [most] people's minds presumably drawing "the red line". By talking about sexual harassment, Sheryl met the audience at its needs.

2. Sheryl diluted the argument diplomatically. Notice the generalities employed in those comments, and how well they are reframed to the leader. Sheryl spoke from the leader's framework, as it should be. Notice there's no flimsy wasting of breath on any bullshit. A leader does not waste her words on arguments that she/he is not part of.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

What do women want ?

I thought I should humanize today this great leader that I am, and write on an overly used subject we have 10,000 experts on: attraction.

I just had my lunch, which consisted of a one pound raw piece of ocean fish. Those that have been following my blog consistently know that raw meat of all kinds (fish, white, and red meat) is part of my diet. Note: Don't try this at home. I'm a tough act to follow.

It's past 3 o'clock now and what I've had all day so far it's tea, coffee, 8 ounces of berries in the morning and the fish now. [If you throw up with the fish, it's on you]. I'm also drinking a Bone Broth protein shake from Ancient Nutrition [link]. Its' aftertaste is kind of spicy to me. I've cooked my own broth soup before and ate it, but that takes 12 hours to cook properly. Industrialized kitchens cook hard beef bones between 12 and 24 hours. Tough act to follow. I'm not trying to be the next Tim Ferriss to tell you what to eat and how to sleep (although I agree with a lot of his views particularly on stoicism).

Back to the subject, what is it that women want ? Well, why should brilliant mouthpiece Max Cantor tell you, since you dimwits still don't get.

We'll let the ladies speak this time. We'll give them the podium. I'll just seat on the sidelines and munch on my happy bones of fish.

Question: which is the best selling book in recent history ? 

If you ask that question, you'll find out that Fifty Shades of Grey and its sequels, Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed by E.L. James have sold 150 million copies worldwide. 150 Million ! That's more than I have in the bank. It's safe to say that the largest majority of those readers are women, therefore they are into it.

Now, if you are The Atlantic you will say "Fifty Shades of Grey Gets BDSM Dangerously Wrong", but...125 Million plus women can't be wrong. You may say that I'm a hopelessly romantic,  but... E L James’s New York Times #1 bestselling trilogy has been hailed by Entertainment Weekly as being “in a class by itself.” This is more than a book, this is a cultural phenomena. 150 million copies translated into 52 languages sold. E.L., if you're reading this, I've got dizzy from so many love scenes ! After reading this stuff I need headache pill. I have enough self-respect not to drink like a sailor.

So, what do women want ? 

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Fired for "Not Being a Team Player"

This email from a reader is quite a common situation in the workplace. Let's hear it from him now:


"Hello Max,

My name is Josh. I am a banker working in a Tier 1 firm and had been at my former job for almost three years. I was fired unexpectedly about a month ago from my VP Asset Pricing position. I was good at what I was doing, stuff like pricing for institutional and retirement investment plans; pricing for Hedge Fund Services and Prime Brokerage client positions and pricing trader position via the End of Day process.

I stress out unexpectedly, because I had very good reviews, had an optimal performance. How did it happen ? I'm not so sure. I had a new boss come in couple of months ago who, from the beginning, said he wanted to clear house. He was telling me "people are riding on coattails here", "clear the deck", then he was "I feel you're the one I can trust here", "You're safe". With the blessings of his supervisors, he actually introduced a concept in our management meetings, that of the "Team Clock". According to him, every team in the department had to have at least three team sanctioned project going on or else they would not be "functioning well".

"Teamwork goes beyond asking for input on what you need for what you are currently doing. You need to show you've included three inputs from your mates on everything you do. That's teamwork." -[Quoted him]

After failing to include that many inputs because there just weren't any to include in there, he fired me unceremoniously. Monday morning, 10 o'clock, and...I was done.

I've done nothing to upset this man except doing my job to the highest level of integrity and professionalism. I did not botch anything he made me do.
However, I did no put up any resistance to this guy.

Yet he let me go WITH THE BIGGEST SMILE ON HIS FACE that day."


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