Sunday, June 17, 2018

Adaptability, emotional, intellectual quotients and more life lessons

A Silicon Valley entrepreneur sent me a link to an article on AEI  and said that is exactly how he hires people. What stands for the AEI initials ?
"Colloquially called 'the Qs,' the AEI tests three variables:
  • Adaptability quotient (AQ)
  • Emotional quotient (EQ)
  • Intellectual quotient (IQ)
While each 'Q' matters, the AEI weights AQ the most." -Fast Company .
 Related: Mensa IQ test
This seems to be the direction for smart hires. Awash and down the toilet goes EI (Emotional Intelligence).

And now, more and better lessons from the one (and only) yours truly.

1. It was about 4:30 in the afternoon. As I walked towards the elevator down the corridor a guy saw me and said casually: Hey, I thought I missed you, blah, blah, blah. Now this guy, yes, I knew him, but I didn't have an appointment with him or anything. Some greetings like that might have happened to you dozens, hundreds of times this year alone.

Question: What is wrong with this picture ?

Answer: The guy assumed that I was **on his time**. **He**thought. **He** missed me. Here's the thing, I'm not on that guy's time. Watch out, people will do this to you, subordinate you to them. Most people won't notice. Yes, he thought he missed me, but I didn't.  If I need you, I know how to get a hold of you.

2. Love is what dumb people feel when they've had too much dopamine to drink.

3. Life is like Pilates: 10s to the front, 4s to the back. (according to a TV commercial)

4. Romantic relationships bank skulduggery: men are looking for short-term loans, women for long-term loans. Here's what happens with loans, everybody and their brother know this: While short-term loans may have higher interest rates at first, long-term financing typically end up paying more in interest. That's because the long-term length allows interest to build up over time. Got it ? Once again, which one costs you more ?

5. In the game of life, you are either prey or predator, bow arrow or target. Either way, you have to move. You'll switch between the two roles many times, but there are only two roles. Guess who's luckier, prey or predator ? Idea: draw two columns, on the left-side column write what you're being a target of, and on the right-side column what is it that you are targeting. It's important to know on which side, left or right, you are on the different issues in your life.



Wednesday, June 13, 2018

12 Rules for Life by J.B. Peterson Book Review

I have previously listed the 12 Rules from the 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos book, now here are my notes and underlines. You can now scroll down to the bottom for my message to Jordan Peterson.

Jordan Peterson is a prolific author, bookphile and speaker and his book doesn't disappoint. He is controversial because it's said to have been embraced by the alt-right. [Who would have thought chaos doesn't like rules ?!] But that's non-sense since he is against ideologues of any kinds. Also heard that this book is only for 20-year olds, and not for older people, is another bunch of non-sense pervaded by social media matrix warriors. The book is for a general audience of all ages, thus its popularity. Furthermore, Peterson has a lot of advice for raising and upbringing children, so parents will find it particularly useful. Beware, however, this is not a redpill book (the blog you're reading is).

Professor Peterson draws heavily on Christianity and Bible aphorisms, and CJ Jung, among others.

Here are some thoughts and lessons that we can draw upon:

"You cannot know ahead of time. The success of a good example can always be attributed to luck. Thus, you have to risk your particular, individual life to find out." -from Rule (Chapter 8). This is another way of saying SITG (Skin-In-The-Game). That's why those selling you recipes for getting rich, getting scot-free, or getting-anything-they-know-you-want are snake oil salesmen.

"You should never sacrifice what you could be for what you are."- Rule 8, 12 Rules for Life.

"That is what totalitarian means: Everything that needs to be discovered has been discovered. Everything will unfold precisely as planned." -Chapter 8 "When reason falls in love with itself...we have tyranny by reason." Let me point out here there are people on the Internet, people with a large following, who've made it their business to explain how the "irrational" falls in line with their handpicked rational word vomit. They state the conclusion...and work their way to it with a reason of whale shit proportion. Remember they are reason propagandists who use the "tyranny of reason" on you.

"Every game has rules. Some of the most important rules are implicit." -from Chapter 8
Precisely why I'm working hard on the rules for the underdog, the cause that I champion.

Avoid expedience. "Expedience-that's hiding all the skeletons in the closet." -from Chapter 7
Expedience, an unfortunate sign of our times, goes against the flow of the universe.

"Satan embodies the refusal of sacrifice; he is arrogance, incarnate; spite, deceit, and cruel, conscious malevolence. He is pure hatred of Man, God and Being." -
Chapter 7 Wow, Professor Peterson, I didn't know you've already met my former boss !

"Think not that I have come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword." -Matthew 10:34 quote, -in Rule 8

Friday, June 8, 2018

Spartacus: Gods of the Arena -Part II

I've taken the job of writing about conflicts and relationships amongst the characters as they appear in the Spartacus series. We have more characters to add to the list in Part I. This is going to be a drip-drip post, I'll add material as I refresh my memory of the series.

9. Tiberius Crassus, son of Marcus Licinius Crassus

-Tiberius is impulsive and demanding.
-has low regards for slaves, including Spartacus, the enemy.
-he humiliates and degrades his father's favorite female slave and concubine, Kore -which is the cause of his death.
-The act of "Decimation" ordered by his father makes him into a worse version of himself, after he loses his friend to it, Sabinus.
A fractured character, in pain, gets worse, not better. However his father sees "new growth" after his trials with the decimation tradition.

What of the disparity between real and imagined vis-a-vis Tiberius's hardening ? Crassus the father was no fool. What's going on ?

Quote of the day: "A snake, by nature, favors maneuvering upon its belly." -Vettius speaking of Batiatus, Spartacus




Thursday, June 7, 2018

How To Apologize

There's this burning question a few folks have on their mind, and...it's already been answered.

It's been answered when a reader, Jack posted this parable of the broken plate. Did you check the plate yet ? You did ? Is the plate still broken ?

An alpha male doesn't apologize, because he doesn't do stupid things to begin with.

So that's it with your doings. No more doing dumb things, then apologizing. You do something stupid, you get hurt. That simple.

What about something you said or thought you said ?

Recently in the news was the firing of Roseanne Barr from her show, the cancelling of her show because of a racist tweet she tweeted in the middle of the night.

In the NY Times Margaret Renkl had an opinion piece June 4th, 2018, quote:

A child who learns these words learns that an apology consists of four parts:
1) Genuine remorse (not “I don’t remember it that way” but “I am truly, wholeheartedly sorry.”)
2) The expectation of unpleasant but entirely deserved consequences (not “I wouldn’t have fired me” but “I’m seeking help to confront my racism.”)
3) A resolution not to commit the same error again (not “I’m not as bad as some of these stories suggest” but “I’m much worse than I ever imagined, and I plan to devote the rest of my life to making amends.”)
4) A sincere effort to avoid the circumstances that led to the error in the first place (not “I won’t take Ambien any more” but “I will no longer hang out online with racists.)"

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Spartacus Gods of the Arena: 10 Lessons

Delving into the Spartacus Starz series is like going through a treasure trove. Here are 10 lessons from only a single episode. Yes, you heard it right, 10 life lessons from one single episode, episode thirteen.  A narrative of the episode is available at Spartacus: Wiki

1.  When presented with a difficult decision, take [your position] to the extremes, if only to bluff your opponent. 

When Batiatus tells Spartacus he is to face Crixus in a battle to the death, here's the dialogue:

Batiatus: You will face Crixus, in final fight. This concerns you ?
Spartacus: It is long overdue.

Here is this guy facing a battle to the death, yet he says it should have happened long before. The boss is sentencing him, yet he's like: "You should have done it long ago."

2. In the days prior to the their "sine missione" fight, Spartacus keeps on trying to convince Crixus to join him in his planned escape and attack on their master. "You must listen to me" - Spartacus . Yes, you want revenge for the death of your wife is the echo he keeps on getting from Crixus. We know that Crixus ultimately joins, but,

Revenge is not enough of a reason.

3. "Pain is erased when inflicted upon others." -Crixus Really ? Are people like that ?

4. Spartacus makes promises that he keeps. 

Crucial to getting Crixus onboard was Spartacus's promise to find Crixus's cherished girl. Spartacus make that promises, and as we know, he keeps it. Spartacus makes no empty promises.

5. As Batiatus gloats on his glory and promised office, here's a dialogue between Batiatus, the Roman owner of gladiators, and his wife.

Lucretia [talking about Batiatus's father]: He loved you, Quintus.
Batiatus: Yet he never believed in me.

Friday, May 25, 2018

How To Survive Your 40s

I've never written age-specific advice. I've read some on the subject, since age-advice is quite abundant. A lot of people come out with "Things I wish I knew in my 20s, What I've leaned when I turned 30, or 40, or whatever." Some of these writers, both male and female, have sensible, good advice. The reason I've never written age-group advice is simple: I don't believe in age, for men, at least, in the traditional sense. (men age like wine...)

Pamela Druckerman wrote an op-ed on May 4th, 2018, How to Survive your 40s and I thought I will title this post to match it. This is not age-related advice, it's NOT specific for 40-year olds. What are some of the things Ms. Druckerman says ? (Ms. Druckerman is a writer in her 40s, living in Paris.)
"Forty isn’t even technically middle age anymore. Someone who’s now 40 has a 50 percent chance of living to 95, says the economist Andrew Scott, a co-author of “The 100-Year Life.”
But the number 40 still has symbolic resonance. Jesus fasted for 40 days. Muhammad was 40 when the archangel Gabriel appeared to him. The Israelites wandered the desert for 40 years. Mr. Brandes writes that in some languages, 40 means “a lot.”
And age 40 still feels pivotal. “The 40s are when you become who you are,” a British author in his 70s tells me, adding ominously, “And if you don’t know by your 40s, you never will.”
I personally disagree with that British author, there is crystallization in your 40s, but no more, or less than is in your 30s (when compared with your 20s). There's probably a lot of people out there who agree 40s is the apex for a man in terms of earning power, stability, etc. Is it ?

"But there are upsides, too. What we lack in processing power we make up for in maturity, insight and experience. We’re better than younger people at grasping the essence of situations, controlling our emotions and resolving conflicts. We’re more skilled at managing money and explaining why things happen. We’re more considerate than younger people. And, crucially for our happiness, we’re less neurotic."
The author is baffled of being called "Madame" instead of "Mademoiselle", which is essentially the age report society brings on you. I say: Call me Sir, whether I'm 25 or 33 or 40 or 60".

Quote of the day: "Where the Jedi gained power through understanding, the Sith gain understanding through power." -Emperor Palpatine, Star Wars: Dark Lord: The Rise of Darth Vader- James Lucerno

Saturday, May 19, 2018

How to accept a compliment

I came upon this May 17, 2018 op-ed in the New York Times "How to accept a compliment"

"According to experts at the university’s Center for Advanced Research on Language Acquisition, two thirds of the time, Americans respond to compliments with something other than, or in addition to, “Thank you.” We shift credit (“My mom picked this dress out for me.”), make a historical comment (“I bought it on sale.”), question the complimenter (“Hmm, you think so?”) or lob back a compliment (“I like your outfit, too.”). Other times we downgrade the compliment (“This thing is so old I was about to give it to Goodwill.”), reject it outright (“I feel like I look like a hobo.”) or treat the compliment as a request (“You want to borrow it?”)." -Carolyn Bucior

Ms. Bucior seems to think "the compliment is a coded invitation to chitchat, and simply saying, “Thank you” linguistically slams the door in the complimenter’s face." She shuns the simple, yet wholesome "Thank you" for reason of shutting down on chitchat/conversation.

She is wrong. Of course, I don't write about women codes or coquetry. I write about a winner's etiquette.

The smart way, my way, is exactly that "Thank you !" without any explanation or reciprocation. Do not reciprocate, not because you are rude or lacking manners. There is subtle exchange of energy your way when complimented you are throwing to the garbage when you respond on automatic reciprocating with a compliment or explanation. They don't teach you that at Harvard. Old wolves know it. You now know it, too. Accept the compliment wholeheartedly, openly (always accept, again, don't ignore). Do not dismiss or look down upon the compliment. In fact, we should say "Thank you" more often than we do, such as when catching the train or subway on time. You can accept it with a smile and say nothing. Or say "Thank you". The conversation can still go on if the complimenter follows with an opening story. What's important here is to accept the compliment fully, without excuses or remarks.



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Monday, May 14, 2018

Alpha men gladiator archetypes: Spartacus: Gods of the Arena -Part I

Today we write on the traits of the main male warriors in the Spartacus miniseries (2010-2013), with extensive reference to the fan-powered Spartacus Wikipedia.
After reading this post, ask yourself: Which one am I ? (If you're a beta or an omega, sit behind the dugout).

1. Spartacus, The Champion of Capua, The Slayer of Theokoles, The Bringer of Rain

I named Spartacus history's first and foremost underdog. What's Spartacus like:

-a serious leader
-unflinching, unbendable like dura steel
-strong moral compass
-serious in tone and speech
-merciless towards his enemies
-yearning for liberties and freedom for slaves, he is the architect of the rebellion
-"stuborn, hard-to-recruit as a gladiator"
-Spartacus is very shrewd, eg: " Spartacus and a small group of rebels infiltrate the arena through a gutter."

Spartacus and the rebels bring down the Arena of Capua.

Just before the execution of the former gladiators is about to commence, he and Agron disguise themselves as guards and enter the arena behind Gannicus and the other gladiators to 'stand guard.' They observe the fight, and see Rhaskos fall. Meanwhile, the rest of the rebels succeed in setting a fire underground, and the arena collapses in flames, spilling thousands of spectators to their fiery deaths."-Spartacus Wikia

Quote of the day: "Cause no matter what you've told yourself, You can't outrun what you've done. You can't outrun who you really are." - Lucifer to Cain, Fox Network, Lucifer: Season Finale

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

10+ Reasons Why Donald Trump is weak and is spelling failure

I will excuse Trump women fans from reading this post. They wouldn't understand it anyway, yet they are certainly a large group. Trump got elected by women - some 6 million of them, the same ones that voted for Obama years earlier voted for Trump in 2016. (this goes against the common perception of white males majority, when in fact the males weren't the decisive factor).

We look at what makes an alpha male here, not at what makes a hamster brain spin.

1. Discipline is the highest virtue. I keep repeating this over and over again, a man without discipline is a hollow shadow. Somebody that is tweeting at 3 AM is either crazy, drugged up, or a real loser. The only people awake at 3 AM should be the narcoleptics, the pimps and those in their employ. My girlfriend knows I will not answer her call at 3 AM, or anytime before I undergo my morning routine and put my affairs to order. She could be sitting in a dungeon. It doesn't matter.

2. Being petty and vindictive. That sounds like some women I know. Why do we have to go back to reference women when we are talking about a guy ? Gee, that is some mystery.

3. So women are driven by emotion. If you have a guy like that, what exactly do you have here ? Someone that's masculine ? If a man does things to get the approval of others, he is beta male.

4. It is women, once again, who tear down their competition instead of focusing on improving themselves. The mark of the worthy man is his focus on self-development. If you don't focus your energy on yourself, you are not an alpha male. Period. You may be a carnie worthy of a circus.

5. There's this new show called Krypton, a prequel series to Superman, that started in March. The villain there is Brainiac, played by British actor Blake Ritson.

Quote of the day: "Lesson One: Never drop your fucking guard"-Oenomaus to Spartacus, Spartacus series

Sunday, May 6, 2018

The cure to envy

Envy is a subroutine of the HOS (Human Operating System); a lot of readers have concerns over it. The NYT had an Oped article recently The Upside of Envy written by Gordon Marino, a professor of philosophy.
"In his essay “On Envy,” the philosopher Francis Bacon wrote, “Of all other affections, it is the most importune and continual. For of other affections there is occasion given but now and then; and therefore it was well said, ‘Invidia festos dies non agit.’ ” That is, 'Envy keeps no holidays.'"
Mr. Marino recalls when a "sixtysomething friend boasted that he had recently completed a marathon, I was able to restrain myself from giving rope to the indignant thought, 'Instead of running miles every day, why don’t you spend some time tutoring disadvantaged kids!'"

This is called projection-evisceration. A lot of people have "envy to the N-th degree", which is what I would describe the author when he had that thought (kudos for stopping himself from voicing it out loud). As a repetitive thought pattern, envy is very damaging. We need to take control of that poor thinking process.

The best way to deal with envy, like with any (damaging, in this case) loop is to:

1. Break it with an action -if that doesn't work, then,

2. Realize we don't control what others do, say and who they are. If that still doesn't work or if it is not your operating system [it's called the stoic OS], then,

3. Realize there's always somebody better or doing better than we are (the superlative connection). If that still doesn't do it, then,

4. "Judge" others on other metrics (multi-metric comparison). "Yes, he makes more money than I do, BUT I have a better looking girlfriend than he does. Or I am in better shape than he is, etc."

The best and final rule of envy is one of the  12 Rules of Life of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson and others,

"Always compare yourself to who you were yesterday."

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